Hoinestly, grief takes so many physical and mental manifestations. I think we really only talk about it being of sadness and loss but it's so much more than that. I think your husband is wise to be able to notice these shifts in an impersonal way (not taking it on as you being difficult, cranky whatever, but sommething happening TO you
Hi Denyse, I'm not mid 70's but I can very much relate to this post. I lost Dad 7.5 years ago and now everything going on with Mum. She is in end-of-life phase now. We met with a palliative care team today. Could be weeks or months. We don't know. I am short fused, tired, exhausted, and my productivity at home has depleted. I just can't do much right now. Burnt out is something I think I have too. Like you, I've had it before. For me it was in 2012. As things progress with Mum I will hand over the linky to Sue & Deb to look after (host) for a while which thankfully they have very kindly agreed to do. You've been through a lot too - all the points you've stated here in your post plus your own health journey. What we can manage and cope with changes as we get older and also depending on what we're dealing with. We have to alter our priorities and where we put our time so that we do the best to care for ourselves and find some pockets of joy to nourish and fulfill us. Take care of you! Thanks for linking up with #WWWhimsy xo
Hi Denyse, you and I are on the same wavelength this week - see my post tomorrow for WBOYC? You've been through so much over the last few years and once life starts to slow down that is when burn out/grief/other feelings we haven't addressed come to the surface. I'm glad you are slowing down and taking care of yourself. Sending love and hugs to you, my friend. You are doing so well so be kind to you! x
I am sure that when you wrote/read through this post, you can see how much you've been through recently. It's a lot! I think you should be commended for holdingt it together thus far but it's important to remember that you can do anything, you can't do everything! Lucky you're so self aware and have such a fabulous partner in B, that you know when things aren't right and can adjust your sails accordingly. Grief is such a fickle beast and it has no timeline - it's just finding the balance of how we can live with it. Sending you a big hug xx
You have been through a lot and I can see how grief and burnout would combine. I love that you have a journal where you write to your dad. I am sure that second car will come in handy!
Hi Denyse, it is a hard time and you've been through so much, holding it all together as best you could. You are grieving and feeling the pressure and overwhelm but you are also insightful and know yourself, so I'm sure you'll feel more like yourself when your body is ready. You are doing everything right and you're fortunate to have such a knowledgable and supportive husband to assist you. Take the time, feel the trees and maybe once winter is gone you'll start picking up, but there's no time limit on grief as you know!! Take care x
Hi Denyse - I think it's very easy to be impacted by life events - by grief, by overdoing it, by little niggles, by physical limitations.....and these tend to crop up more as we get older. I know I feel more unsettled when I give the niggles my attention. I'm glad you're finding ways to work through your grief and I'm sure the second car will be a lovely gift from your dad to remember him by. Keep doing your inner healing and be kind to yourself - and try to bring your attention to all the little blessings in your life - they far outweigh the sorrows. <3
Hoinestly, grief takes so many physical and mental manifestations. I think we really only talk about it being of sadness and loss but it's so much more than that. I think your husband is wise to be able to notice these shifts in an impersonal way (not taking it on as you being difficult, cranky whatever, but sommething happening TO you
) but I have said before he is a smart man. Take care, do what you need to do. And I know you know what nourishes and revives you.
Hi Denyse, I'm not mid 70's but I can very much relate to this post. I lost Dad 7.5 years ago and now everything going on with Mum. She is in end-of-life phase now. We met with a palliative care team today. Could be weeks or months. We don't know. I am short fused, tired, exhausted, and my productivity at home has depleted. I just can't do much right now. Burnt out is something I think I have too. Like you, I've had it before. For me it was in 2012. As things progress with Mum I will hand over the linky to Sue & Deb to look after (host) for a while which thankfully they have very kindly agreed to do. You've been through a lot too - all the points you've stated here in your post plus your own health journey. What we can manage and cope with changes as we get older and also depending on what we're dealing with. We have to alter our priorities and where we put our time so that we do the best to care for ourselves and find some pockets of joy to nourish and fulfill us. Take care of you! Thanks for linking up with #WWWhimsy xo
Hi Denyse, you and I are on the same wavelength this week - see my post tomorrow for WBOYC? You've been through so much over the last few years and once life starts to slow down that is when burn out/grief/other feelings we haven't addressed come to the surface. I'm glad you are slowing down and taking care of yourself. Sending love and hugs to you, my friend. You are doing so well so be kind to you! x
I am sure that when you wrote/read through this post, you can see how much you've been through recently. It's a lot! I think you should be commended for holdingt it together thus far but it's important to remember that you can do anything, you can't do everything! Lucky you're so self aware and have such a fabulous partner in B, that you know when things aren't right and can adjust your sails accordingly. Grief is such a fickle beast and it has no timeline - it's just finding the balance of how we can live with it. Sending you a big hug xx
You have been through a lot and I can see how grief and burnout would combine. I love that you have a journal where you write to your dad. I am sure that second car will come in handy!
Hi Denyse, it is a hard time and you've been through so much, holding it all together as best you could. You are grieving and feeling the pressure and overwhelm but you are also insightful and know yourself, so I'm sure you'll feel more like yourself when your body is ready. You are doing everything right and you're fortunate to have such a knowledgable and supportive husband to assist you. Take the time, feel the trees and maybe once winter is gone you'll start picking up, but there's no time limit on grief as you know!! Take care x
Hi Denyse - I think it's very easy to be impacted by life events - by grief, by overdoing it, by little niggles, by physical limitations.....and these tend to crop up more as we get older. I know I feel more unsettled when I give the niggles my attention. I'm glad you're finding ways to work through your grief and I'm sure the second car will be a lovely gift from your dad to remember him by. Keep doing your inner healing and be kind to yourself - and try to bring your attention to all the little blessings in your life - they far outweigh the sorrows. <3