I understand the oldest daughter thing Denyse! Leanne and Jo have given fabulous responses and you’re making progress (even if it’s slow to you) so keep on keeping on! Take care and try to ignore the inner critic when we she comes out! You’ve got this, especially with all the help and people who care about you nearby. It’s tough at times I know. xx
Exactly what Leanne said below (esp re the older daughter thing). My critic sometimes is so loud I have to literally place my hands over my ears and tell her to shut the f up. Sometimes it works, sometimes she sulks, but anything that helps is a respite.
I think most of us have an inner critic (especially oldest daughters!) learning to be kinder to ourselves and dropping the regrets and self-criticism will probably be a lifetime journey, but it's worth putting in the effort. We can't change what's been - and hindsight helps us learn, but doesn't help when it brings regrets. You're doing so well, you love where you live, you have family nearby, a loving spouse, and a great life - focus on those things and remind yourself how much work you've done to be who you are and where you are - you've got this! :) x
Ah Leanne, yes to your thoughtful and kind words. You are so very right in what you say. I am already able to 'send those inner critic words' away but at times it takes effort. And that IS worthwhile.
I understand the oldest daughter thing Denyse! Leanne and Jo have given fabulous responses and you’re making progress (even if it’s slow to you) so keep on keeping on! Take care and try to ignore the inner critic when we she comes out! You’ve got this, especially with all the help and people who care about you nearby. It’s tough at times I know. xx
Exactly what Leanne said below (esp re the older daughter thing). My critic sometimes is so loud I have to literally place my hands over my ears and tell her to shut the f up. Sometimes it works, sometimes she sulks, but anything that helps is a respite.
Good one Jo! Thanks for sharing. Yes definitely the older daughter syndrome is alive in at least you, me and Leanne.
Take care,
Denyse x
I think most of us have an inner critic (especially oldest daughters!) learning to be kinder to ourselves and dropping the regrets and self-criticism will probably be a lifetime journey, but it's worth putting in the effort. We can't change what's been - and hindsight helps us learn, but doesn't help when it brings regrets. You're doing so well, you love where you live, you have family nearby, a loving spouse, and a great life - focus on those things and remind yourself how much work you've done to be who you are and where you are - you've got this! :) x
Ah Leanne, yes to your thoughtful and kind words. You are so very right in what you say. I am already able to 'send those inner critic words' away but at times it takes effort. And that IS worthwhile.
You get it. That means a lot.
Thank you.
Denyse x