I love to read that you are being so kind to yourself, noting the signs and adjusting as required and that you will share but without putting unneeded pressure on yourself.
It's good to know I actually am in charge...all those years of people pleasing take a while to 'unlearn' but I am being kind to me and that helps me be more balanced I guess.
Hello Denyse. I hope you continue to nurture yourself and take note of (and act on) how you are feeling. In this present time, I am doing really well. Life is humming along, and I am at ease. I plan to embrace this gentle time while it lasts.
Hi Denyse what a difference a year makes. Look at you smiling in your bright colours - I want that scarf!!. You know what works for you and the 4 'G' are a good reminder. Thank you for sharing your experience as it might just help someone else who is feeling the same way. We never know how our posts can be helpful to others do we? Thanks for sharing at #WWWhimsy, it is always lovely when you join in. Have a beautiful day. xx
I love that little image with the 4Gs. It's a reminder of (a) what to look for and (b) that it's a process. You can be moving forward from the first step at any point (so not linear but continual.) #WWWhimsy
So glad you're feeling better - I hope you find the sharing cathartic and beneficial. You're self awareness is such a gift! Love that story about your mum and dad coming to pick you up - there's no love like a parent's love! xx
Thank you! I am definitely a work in progress but feeling better is wonderful! It’s a good story isn’t it? I love the connection I still have with it too when I visit Windsor.
Hi Denyse, it's so lovely to see you looking more relaxed and Deb Dana's work is so helpful on a daily basis. I used to plan and control literally everything, but I know that contributed to me burning out. I think we did the best we could with what we knew and our generation of women learned particular life lessons from our parents that are maybe different now. It's now time for us to take as much care of ourselves as we've taken for others over the decades. Keep smiling 😃 Karen xx
Thanks Karen! I have so much I'm learning from & about these days that I'm needing to limit the times for that so as not to steal from my art fun & getting outside!
That's the thing about being a lifelong learner I guess.. I just know I want & need to know more about what makes me, this human, me!
Deb's work is very good & making a lot of sense!
Yes to some of the ways in which we were raised & societal expectations of those times
Thanks so much for your kind words. Every day, as they say, I am feeling better and enjoying life as it is!
You have a great deal of understanding of yourself Denyse and share your insights so well. I’m glad you’re feeling better and sharing your words is very helpful. As to what our parents would do for us I think we learn more about that as we become parents ourselves and our children grow up. Take care. #teamwwwhimsy
Oh thank you Deb, that is very kind I have been told about my insightfulness by health professionals too..the "HARD" part is taking action based on whatever is causing me some problem and slowly I am learning to challenge myself that way based on the lessons I learned from 'exposure therapy' from Acceptance and Commitment Theory.
I remember writing on a photo/story back in 2018-19 "I can do hard things" and now I see very famous people are making a motza from that notion!!
I am making progress that is pleasing for me and taking my time but also allowing myself to be out there taking 'risks' and it's OK.
I can definitely see the difference in the photos Denyse. You look so relaxed in the second photo. I do love your header photo and the colours you've used. You always match your colours up well. I'm sure I never had any appreciation when I was younger for all my parents did for me. Same for my children. Not sure that they have worked it out yet!
Thanks so much Jennifer. Until this photo from 2024 popped up I had not really taken enough notice of all that last year meant for me in terms of change and adjustment.
Being Dad's co-executor took a lot of emotional energy for me and my brother as we needed to be 'on top of everything' because of some of the inadequacies of the solicitor Dad had engaged.
I am a colours and matchy matchy person. I cannot lie!! I also decided on these colours as a change for me here from that photo back in May 2025. I do have a paid app which allows me to make the changes.
I am of that some thinking about 'our adult kids' at times..ha!
Hi Denyse, I can definitely see a difference between the two photos of you at the top. The second one you look more relaxed and genuinely happy. I know that when I was young there was much about my parents I took for granted. My Dad used to come pick me up from the bus station every second Sunday night when I returned from visiting my now hubby but then boyfriend who was living up the coast. I used to go up to visit every second weekend. He'd come to Brisbane the alternate weekend. I took it for granted that Dad would pick me up. Mum did alot for me too that I took for granted. I think it's not till you're a parent yourself that you realise and appreciate what your own parents did for you. I'm so glad you're doing better these days. Thanks for sharing with us at #WWWhimsy ! xo
Isn't it all so interesting about our appreciation and finally realising it as adults. When Dad was sharing stories from way back he would tell me more about Mum's reactions when I left home...I had no idea.
Thanks for seeing the differences in the images which I could remember and feel. It was such early days after Dad's death and managing being a co-executor which my brother and I carried out with precision...even though Dad's chosen solicitor was not always on the ball. Sigh!
What a lovely story to know about you and your husband. Nice memories too.
I am enjoying feeling like connecting more on social media and with the link up and I am grateful for that too.
Hi Denyse - I can see a difference between those two photos at the top. In the first one you look like you're working at being happy - smiling but with an "edge" for want of a better word. The second one has a more serene and centered feel to it. I think you're finally settling into the acceptance, grace and gratitude that you've been working towards over the last decade or so. It shows. xx
Thank you so much for your insights here Leanne. I know I was in the midst of so much that was changing around me (and within) after Dad died. This was about 3 months afterwards and my brother and I were finding it challenging to be co-executors where Dad's solicitor was not exactly "always on the ball".
I am liking life, and myself as I am, far more these days and am glad to have made the journey (no other word for it) from the traumas and acceptance of them, to a kinder place of self-compassion and understanding.
I don’t think you have any understanding about how your parents missed you/would do for you until you’re older & in the same situation. The naivety of youth.
I just wished in some ways I had known of Mum's distress at leaving me at Barraba...not then ( I was 20) but much later when I already had adult kids. But my mum was the quiet one...mostly...and Dad the more outgoing so maybe that is why I heard it from him.
I understand you would be knowing this too from your experiences in life.
I love to read that you are being so kind to yourself, noting the signs and adjusting as required and that you will share but without putting unneeded pressure on yourself.
It's good to know I actually am in charge...all those years of people pleasing take a while to 'unlearn' but I am being kind to me and that helps me be more balanced I guess.
Love seeing you here!
Take care,
Denyse x
Hello Denyse. I hope you continue to nurture yourself and take note of (and act on) how you are feeling. In this present time, I am doing really well. Life is humming along, and I am at ease. I plan to embrace this gentle time while it lasts.
Thank you Christie. It's a bit up and down at times but the "ups" are winning! I'm glad you have found a good place & space right now!
Take care,
Denyse
Hi Denyse what a difference a year makes. Look at you smiling in your bright colours - I want that scarf!!. You know what works for you and the 4 'G' are a good reminder. Thank you for sharing your experience as it might just help someone else who is feeling the same way. We never know how our posts can be helpful to others do we? Thanks for sharing at #WWWhimsy, it is always lovely when you join in. Have a beautiful day. xx
Thank you Sue. I’ve never been a “scarf” person till recently & yes to these colours! They are a delight.
And one of the reasons I remain connected & sharing is exactly what you wrote.. you never know who might find it helpful.
I do reading others works and words too!
I love that little image with the 4Gs. It's a reminder of (a) what to look for and (b) that it's a process. You can be moving forward from the first step at any point (so not linear but continual.) #WWWhimsy
So glad you're feeling better - I hope you find the sharing cathartic and beneficial. You're self awareness is such a gift! Love that story about your mum and dad coming to pick you up - there's no love like a parent's love! xx
Thank you! I am definitely a work in progress but feeling better is wonderful! It’s a good story isn’t it? I love the connection I still have with it too when I visit Windsor.
Hi Denyse, it's so lovely to see you looking more relaxed and Deb Dana's work is so helpful on a daily basis. I used to plan and control literally everything, but I know that contributed to me burning out. I think we did the best we could with what we knew and our generation of women learned particular life lessons from our parents that are maybe different now. It's now time for us to take as much care of ourselves as we've taken for others over the decades. Keep smiling 😃 Karen xx
Thanks Karen! I have so much I'm learning from & about these days that I'm needing to limit the times for that so as not to steal from my art fun & getting outside!
That's the thing about being a lifelong learner I guess.. I just know I want & need to know more about what makes me, this human, me!
Deb's work is very good & making a lot of sense!
Yes to some of the ways in which we were raised & societal expectations of those times
Thanks so much for your kind words. Every day, as they say, I am feeling better and enjoying life as it is!
Take care
Denyse x
You have a great deal of understanding of yourself Denyse and share your insights so well. I’m glad you’re feeling better and sharing your words is very helpful. As to what our parents would do for us I think we learn more about that as we become parents ourselves and our children grow up. Take care. #teamwwwhimsy
Oh thank you Deb, that is very kind I have been told about my insightfulness by health professionals too..the "HARD" part is taking action based on whatever is causing me some problem and slowly I am learning to challenge myself that way based on the lessons I learned from 'exposure therapy' from Acceptance and Commitment Theory.
I remember writing on a photo/story back in 2018-19 "I can do hard things" and now I see very famous people are making a motza from that notion!!
I am making progress that is pleasing for me and taking my time but also allowing myself to be out there taking 'risks' and it's OK.
I appreciate your care, kindness and support.
Denyse x
I can definitely see the difference in the photos Denyse. You look so relaxed in the second photo. I do love your header photo and the colours you've used. You always match your colours up well. I'm sure I never had any appreciation when I was younger for all my parents did for me. Same for my children. Not sure that they have worked it out yet!
Thanks so much Jennifer. Until this photo from 2024 popped up I had not really taken enough notice of all that last year meant for me in terms of change and adjustment.
Being Dad's co-executor took a lot of emotional energy for me and my brother as we needed to be 'on top of everything' because of some of the inadequacies of the solicitor Dad had engaged.
I am a colours and matchy matchy person. I cannot lie!! I also decided on these colours as a change for me here from that photo back in May 2025. I do have a paid app which allows me to make the changes.
I am of that some thinking about 'our adult kids' at times..ha!
Take care
Denyse x
Hi Denyse, I can definitely see a difference between the two photos of you at the top. The second one you look more relaxed and genuinely happy. I know that when I was young there was much about my parents I took for granted. My Dad used to come pick me up from the bus station every second Sunday night when I returned from visiting my now hubby but then boyfriend who was living up the coast. I used to go up to visit every second weekend. He'd come to Brisbane the alternate weekend. I took it for granted that Dad would pick me up. Mum did alot for me too that I took for granted. I think it's not till you're a parent yourself that you realise and appreciate what your own parents did for you. I'm so glad you're doing better these days. Thanks for sharing with us at #WWWhimsy ! xo
Isn't it all so interesting about our appreciation and finally realising it as adults. When Dad was sharing stories from way back he would tell me more about Mum's reactions when I left home...I had no idea.
Thanks for seeing the differences in the images which I could remember and feel. It was such early days after Dad's death and managing being a co-executor which my brother and I carried out with precision...even though Dad's chosen solicitor was not always on the ball. Sigh!
What a lovely story to know about you and your husband. Nice memories too.
I am enjoying feeling like connecting more on social media and with the link up and I am grateful for that too.
Thinking of you for tomorrow and beyond Min.
Take care,
Denyse x
Hi Denyse - I can see a difference between those two photos at the top. In the first one you look like you're working at being happy - smiling but with an "edge" for want of a better word. The second one has a more serene and centered feel to it. I think you're finally settling into the acceptance, grace and gratitude that you've been working towards over the last decade or so. It shows. xx
Thank you so much for your insights here Leanne. I know I was in the midst of so much that was changing around me (and within) after Dad died. This was about 3 months afterwards and my brother and I were finding it challenging to be co-executors where Dad's solicitor was not exactly "always on the ball".
I am liking life, and myself as I am, far more these days and am glad to have made the journey (no other word for it) from the traumas and acceptance of them, to a kinder place of self-compassion and understanding.
I love the words you used too!
Take care,
Denyse x
I don’t think you have any understanding about how your parents missed you/would do for you until you’re older & in the same situation. The naivety of youth.
I hear you on that, Jo.
I just wished in some ways I had known of Mum's distress at leaving me at Barraba...not then ( I was 20) but much later when I already had adult kids. But my mum was the quiet one...mostly...and Dad the more outgoing so maybe that is why I heard it from him.
I understand you would be knowing this too from your experiences in life.
Thank you and take care,
Denyse x