Thank you for sharing such personal thoughts. I know that I still haven't come to grips with my grief, and I can feel it bubbling up a bit as I'm now a bit older. I should revisit Patti Miller's book. I'm sure the time will come when it feels right.
Thanks Jennifer, it will come at a time when you may or may not be ready but you will know. And then you may choose to write to help healing. It sure is a process.
Hi Denyse - I hope that you find some solace and clarity as you share your grief over your Dad. It's a difficult one for me to comment on as I didn't have a relationship with my father worth grieving over. It's good that you invested the time with your dad to make a worthwhile relationship that honours you both and which you can process and ultimately share with others.
Leanne, thank YOU! What a gracious and kind comment on this post. I am sorry about your relationship with your father but I know, from what you have shared, that you accept what it is/was.
I admit that there were many times I could not have been confident about writing my truth because I had some issues in my relationship with my father ....until he observed all I needed to do and be with my oral cancer, and he just let me know in his own way, of his admiration for my courage.
The 'good thing' about Dad's ageing and my times visiting him over the last 5 years is that we came to have a much kinder relationship and that in his last six months it became very hard on me to see some of his suffering. But it was OK. Just hard!
We did get to say the things that meant to most to us over this time and I remain incredibly grateful.
It is that Jo, very helpful. I am so pleased I now follow Katherine May here and on IG, and am saving up Wintering. I just finished Enchanted (typical of me to read most recent book first) now listening to her narrate (she didn't do the other two) The Electricity of Every Living Thing where she writes about her discovery about her autism and how life is for her. Fascinating.
Thank you for sharing such personal thoughts. I know that I still haven't come to grips with my grief, and I can feel it bubbling up a bit as I'm now a bit older. I should revisit Patti Miller's book. I'm sure the time will come when it feels right.
Thanks Jennifer, it will come at a time when you may or may not be ready but you will know. And then you may choose to write to help healing. It sure is a process.
Take care,
Denyse. x
Hi Denyse - I hope that you find some solace and clarity as you share your grief over your Dad. It's a difficult one for me to comment on as I didn't have a relationship with my father worth grieving over. It's good that you invested the time with your dad to make a worthwhile relationship that honours you both and which you can process and ultimately share with others.
Leanne, thank YOU! What a gracious and kind comment on this post. I am sorry about your relationship with your father but I know, from what you have shared, that you accept what it is/was.
I admit that there were many times I could not have been confident about writing my truth because I had some issues in my relationship with my father ....until he observed all I needed to do and be with my oral cancer, and he just let me know in his own way, of his admiration for my courage.
The 'good thing' about Dad's ageing and my times visiting him over the last 5 years is that we came to have a much kinder relationship and that in his last six months it became very hard on me to see some of his suffering. But it was OK. Just hard!
We did get to say the things that meant to most to us over this time and I remain incredibly grateful.
Thanks for your kind words,
Take care
Denyse. x
It is that Jo, very helpful. I am so pleased I now follow Katherine May here and on IG, and am saving up Wintering. I just finished Enchanted (typical of me to read most recent book first) now listening to her narrate (she didn't do the other two) The Electricity of Every Living Thing where she writes about her discovery about her autism and how life is for her. Fascinating.
Thanks for your insightful words,
Denyse x
Thank you Caitlin for sharing your words on grief.
It has made a difference to me already writing instead of storing it up.
I'd be interested to have a look at your ebook.
Take care and I am always grateful to connect with you here too.
Denyse x