A Tough Time For Me.

Grief Lessons, Healing and Health.

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I was not going to post this because I thought what I would be saying may be off putting to some. So, if you are not wanting to know more about this time in my life..it’s been tough, that’s OK. Before anyone leaves though…I want to honour these women.

Tomorrow 8 March is International Women’s Day. I did an update in notes, and here it is:

Over the past two weeks my life has been impacted by grief old and new.

The new is for two friends who died in February. One was my age, the other 3 years younger. Cancer. Brain affected. Awful.

And that news was in the same week of me remembering (re-living) the short illness and death of Dad…

And for this person who IS me, grief affects my system over and over. And I do get some gut issues (aka diarrhoea) which keep me at home. Near a loo…and that’s been me over around 10 days. Spoke to my wonderful G.P. this afternoon who thinks over time, (that great healer) things will resolve. I hope so.

What Do I Do In Tough Times Like These?

Well it is all relative of course, “tough” but for me they have been as I continue to become used to the notion (and action) of doing less and being more caring of my health as my doctor saw me emotionally exhausted at the beginning of the year.

I Take a Daily Selfie.

It keeps me ‘honest’ getting up, getting dressed and recording my day

I Create!

With paint and markers and more and I am so grateful this creative brain is working so well too. Recently I had a ‘cull’ of old art books and took some photos to remember my skills back then.

I Remember.

And I Stay In Touch On Line.

Thanks social media and Substack.

I am a daily newspaper reader.

I like to research new idea about self-care, learning to ‘be’ and more.

So, I am grateful to have both the tools, and time to do so in my recovery.

There is no set end to any time of healing. Not this kind for sure.

But I am learning that GRATITUDE every day - feeling it, writing about it and keeping myself set in my routines helps…as does some new ideas I am trying for self-help.

Even the educator I will continue this…and it is why I write to share on Substack!

How are you going?

In this part of my world, but well to the north the arrival of a Cyclone called Alfred has everyone “WAITING” and like all matters relating to the weather…it decided.

Seriously though, may you and yours, wherever you are be safe, happy and well.

Take care,

Denyse.

Still thinking about this