Welcome to Denyse Whelan Writes Here.
It’s my space to share stories, words and a few pics.
In a couple of days I will publish my Word of The Year post in readiness for a link up run by friends next Monday 6 January 2025. Information will be in that post.
I am READY to let go of a lot of what I think I let hold me back…over the many past years…and that will be evident in my post coming soon.
What I realise I have needed to let go of what mostly that I needed others’ approval and permission for much of what I did and saw myself as.
THIS HAS TO STOP…and I am learning to do so.
Over the past year I did have a lot happening..
which included grief with Dad’s death (preceded by the celebration of his 100th 6 weeks before)…
my own health issues(a former cancer patient and an ageing woman aged 75 …say no more)…
my relationship with my husband grew even more into the wonderful one it is as we approach our 54th Wedding Anniversary..best friends forever too..
changes in extended family circumstances where we care very much for those concerned…
and new ways to learn to live without the domination (in my head over decades) of Dad…and form a newer and more gentle set of memories of him from the last 5 years…
accept the irrelevance of my life and work experiences (and glad to do so now) because that time is done…
loved making the connections again with friends who have been colleagues because we reminisce but never ever want to go back to school!
find joy and gratitude in the every.day.stuff….and those that make me go…WOW…
and coming to terms with the fact that we rent this lovely house and will always face some uncertainty annually until we hear we can stay on for another year (we can)…
and that ENOUGH buying of some items long coveted..bags/art materials/clothing/sneakers…is ENOUGH…and I am grateful…
social media was becoming too dominant as a connecting tool for me and I felt a certain ‘envy’ when I saw travel experiences in particular of friends and family…
because I had to make up my mind that going anywhere away from home for more than a night or two is now beyond my capacity and I am now OK
yet, I have reduced my exposure to social media too, and learned to limit not only my presence but how many people I could genuinely care about who followed me.
That dear readers is it.
Are you looking forward to some shifts in how you decide to live your life moving forward?
Warm wishes,
Denyse. x
I think that at this age we tend to get “organised” for the future , as you are doing. We are not as young as we’d like to be any longer, so we have to accept the reality of our circumstances. Good for you, being able to describe what your life is like now - many don’t have that ability ! My main issue at the moment , is accepting that I may always need help with walking - I use a wheelie walker and have a “love-hate” relationship with it. I love how it gives me stability - but hate that it makes me look old . Still working on that one !
A really insightful deep dive into who you truly are Denyse - rather than who you think you should be. If you're heading into 2025 with authenticity and acceptance, then I think it should be a wonderful year for you.